Sorry, I've been quiet on this lately. Here's an update (please excuse me if I repeat anything):
I was finally able to take both hubs off but it was not easy or pleasant. I tried A LOT of heat with a good impact wrench and a good puller I borrowed from a parts store. That did not get much movement. It wasn't till I started beating the back of the hub with a hammer and walking it off the stub axle that I was finally able to get the hubs off. I find it offensive to take apart a apart of a car with a hammer but there was no other way. I almost lunched the borrowed puller which was a good one with hardened parts (even after greasing the threads with moly grease!)! Thankfully the inner side of the hubs don't show!
I could easily wobble the stub axle in the upright of the driver's side (the bad side) and assumed it was a problem with the outer bearing. Unfortunately, I didn't look closely at the inner bearing. When started taking it apart, a few hits with a dead blow hammer got about 1/3 of the stub axle out. The rest was not coming. I tried using the puller to push it out but it just got cocked on the inner bearing somehow so I gave it to a nearby shop to complete the disassembly for me. When I got it back, the inner bearing was really lunched by my efforts (and maybe the shop's too) so I have a limited amount of useful evidence there. I gave the shop the passenger side radius arm and upright to disassemble after my troubles with the driver's side! When I got the driver's side pieces back from the shop, I measured the ID of the inner race of the outer bearing and it was NOT smaller than the bearing seat on the stub axle as I expected! I wonder if the bearing was seated on the "pad" on the stub axle. I'll do some measurements but I don't know what I could possibly find since I'm using standard uprights, stub axles, and Richard's bearing spacers. Maybe there was something wrong with the inner bearing. It's pretty messed up but maybe there will be a number I can read and make sure that I at least installed the proper bearings.
There is some history that makes my issue a little unique. I have a TCS but as I remember Richard traded my TCS radius arm and uprights for TC parts because at the time he hadn't developed his twin l ink and rear disc kits for the TCS. I don't remember who installed whose bearings. I THINK I installed my bearings but the TC inner bearing is different from the TCS inner bearing so that may not be right. I know the stub axles are the one from my TCS.
I'm going to do some more measurements when I have things further apart as well as check for which bearings I had been using. I'll report on that when I know more.
I promised to call Richard and ask him about the life of bearings and any suggestions he might have and I actually did but I only got voice mail. I'll try again.
I've been discussing this offline with EuropaTC and he corrected himself about his experience saying that when he replaced the bearings every two years (less than 20,000 miles), he had to deal with a lot of snow and salt , etc. which took a toll on his car. He suspects that the bearing life is a lot better than he worried about. I'm coming to that conclusion too but I'm withholding my final assessment till after I learn more about my inner bearing.
When I started this, I decided that I would replace all the rear wheel bearings at once. I have a road trip to the LOG in West Virginia later this year and didn't want to be stuck on the side of the highway. I think if I have to deal with this again, I'll only do the side that is having trouble. It has been way too much trouble and way too painful to take these hubs off to do it when it's not necessary yet.