JB, agreed, thinking of a plan “XYZ” for another time .
For now I think it may be just having these connections to close to one another.
Pic1 bypassing the relay , wire that I’m pointing to stayed hot After running directly to the element. The white connector and the two red leads are from the mfg.
Pic 2
Deleted the short red lead that I had going into the relay , for testing, wires and connections cool as can be after several minutes.
Pic 3, The short lead did have a mismatch of terminals , large to smaller spade that I thought would be the culprit but that not it because the pic 2 terminals are mismatched.
Pic 4 , I dissected the covering and checked my soldered joint. Wire was from the mfg and could be at fault now that I’m writing about it .
Dakazman