I think you'll actually feel two detents (one going into R and one going into 5). The are encounterd moving the shift shaft from side to side. I would use a punch or something similar in the hole in your shift shaft to move it.
I believe the spring is to "center" the shift lever to be at the 3-4 gate. In addition, there is a detent designed to keep you from accidentally go into reverse. Coming up on it will not feel like a dead stop but rather firm resistance. If you push hard, but not hard enough to get past the detent, you should get a little displacement. If it feels like you're pushing against a solid immovable object, there is probably something wrong. Can you check the gear by turning the input shaft and watching the movement of the output shafts? If you're getting a hard stop, that might mean that the R fork is not in alignment at neutral and you're pushing against it. It's very unlikely that you could damage it by pushing on the sift shaft. Using a hammer could be another matter. I don't think you'll be able to turn the input shaft if you are in both R and another gear but I've never tried it. This is all a bit from memory and some educated guesswork on how it's supposed to work, so if I've gotten anything wrong, maybe John will chime in.
It's not a big deal to take the end cover off and make sure that all the shift forks are aligned. But if they aren't aligned, that could possibly be a real issue. That shouldn't happen - or let's say it hasn't been an issue for me and I've not heard of it. Talking to somebody smarter than I am would be a good next step if that's the case just to allay your fears or clue you in on the fix.
One thing that happened to me is the nut on the secondary shaft - the one with the speedo gears on it - ended up being loose. I had another guy look at my tranny when my speedo gears shredded so it could have been him or maybe it was loose when Richard sold it to me. I blame no one. In my case, it made it difficult to get into 2. I suppose something like that could possibly cause your problem. The solution was to put it in 1 & 5 and using a 32mm(?) crowfoot, torque it to 150 ft-lbs. I red locktited it for good measure.
Don't be afraid to take the end cover off. If you end up calling Richard, you'll probably want that in case there's something in there you need to tell him about.