Hi Brian, yes it did drive me nuts, ha ha, I only had long bolts that were partially threaded hence to nuts to space them out!!
I decided an uprated ARB was in order as soon as I saw the original - it just looks too thin to me ....
So, first I ordered the one from Kelsport as it looked good in the pics on their website and had modified droplinks with it that looked easier to fit. But when it arrived, one side was 10mm longer than the other so that went straight back for a refund. It was also hollow and just didn't feel good quality, the poor dimensions put me off anything else from them.
Now I have the one Spyder do - it is very well made and looks like it will be much stiffer than the original - if I can get the bloody links fitted!!! It cost £128 plus VAT (about half the price of the Kelsport one) and comes with the bushes.
I'll try the washing up liquid and hot water tomorrow but I might end up sending it all to Spyder and getting them to do it - it really feels like it won't go on ...