The good news is... (drum roll...) that going back to the original question I posed- can I just plug the vent hole on the old original AC fuel pump that was re-built without the oil seal?...- I talked myself into the YES answer. That is, I don't see why not. So I cleaned and abraded it and put a little dab of thickened epoxy over the vent hole. The next day I drove the car, and the leak is GONE! Hot diggity! So nice to not leave a 3-inch or more oil splotch after each drive.
Amazing how excited one can get about a simple little thing.
This doesn't mean that I won't buy a new fuel pump, but it is a huge and satisfying improvement and it confirms that the majority of my dripping problem was due to the pump.
Vince